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?????????????????????????????????????????????????Wednesday, August 9, 2017
Divorce and separation is increasing in Bangladesh
The statistics bureau of Bangladesh recently published a report about the percentage of divorce and separation in Bangladesh. According to their statistics, the percentage has been increased double in five years.
( August 8, 2017, Dhaka, Sri Lanka Guardian) A
female executives of a private bank, is not only a good banker but also
a good writer. She is about forty years old and achieved a prestigious
position in the society. Her husband is a construction engineer of a
government office but comparing with her wife, he gets a poor salary.
Besides, apart from his work he has no other qualities. For this reason,
only few numbers of government officers and his relatives know him. His
life is not that much busy as his wife. Being a senior most executive,
she has to conduct many trainings and meetings in the bank. Sometimes
she has to leave her station; even her bank organizes their annual
general meeting in Bangkok. So as a good banker her lifestyle is
gorgeous. On the other hand, as a writer, she has a lot of fans and
writer- friends who are also renowned persons in the society.
Primarily, her husband was happy with her lifestyle, but at this midlife
stage he is getting envious. They have two children, all grown-up. They
were leading a happy life and their mother was giving them all the
facilities. Even on the weekend, when they dine in any posh restaurant,
their mother always tries to meet their choice. It becomes a happy and
exclusive day for them. But now-a-days their father unnecessarily
creates such an awful situation in the restaurant which does not go with
them. Even, sometimes he pressurizes his wife to give up her writing,
because their girl is growing up and she needs more company of her
mother. It is another way of showing envious with his wife. Gradually it
has become a regular event of their family.
The lady who is a good banker and a good writer can understand these
all. She thinks that she has two ways: firstly, she can give up her
writing and stay with her husband. Secondly, she has to go for
separation. She thinks that, if she gives up her writing and stay with
his husband, she may not love him. Rather, she has to live with a man
who is not her love. On the other hands, she has to give up one of her
loves which has given vast inspiration to her life every moment.
Thinking for couple of days, she sends a divorce letter to the city
corporation notifying that she will not continue her life with her
husband. She has no demand to her husband except let her children stay
with her until they become university graduate. She is now a single
mother writing more than before and recently she has been promoted in
her bank as well. It is one of the case studies of the upper middle
class family of Dhaka city.
On the other case, is only seventeen. Her father was bound to give her
marriage when she was only fourteen and a half years old. She lives in a
remote village at the northern district Rajshahi in Bangladesh. After
one and half years of her marriage, she gave birth to a dead child and
was attacked by some diseases like shortage of iron in the blood etc.
But her mother in law took her to a Fakir (one kind of spiritual man but
basically they are cunning people and it is their earning way). The
Fakir gave her some holy water and she was suggested to use on her head
every morning. Within six months she got sicker. In the meantime, her
husband declared that, he would marry again because this wife was unable
to give birth. Even she is not compatible enough for his sexual
pleasure because of her poor health condition. Her husband married again
and within a month he started to torture his first wife brutally like
an animal. Within two months, she was forced to leave her husband’s
house and return to her widow mother.
The statistics bureau of Bangladesh recently published a report about
the percentage of divorce and separation in Bangladesh. According to
their statistics, the percentage has been increased double in five
years. But, it is very sad that the cause of divorce and separation for
personality clash and other factors which occur in the upper middle
class or upper class families are less than that of in the poor class
families. Even in the poor class families, a huge number of separations
are not counted. It has no record. It happens in the poor class families
due to ignorance and the marriage of underage girl.
The government of Bangladesh had to compromise with the fundamentalist
regarding the age of marriage of the girls. The government firstly
wanted to enforce a law that girl will not be eligible for marriage
until they are eighteen but ultimately they have to surrender to the
fundamentalist. So they have added a clause with the marriage rules that
if two parties agree, sixteen years can be the girl’s age of marriage.
Unfortunately, in the remote villages sometimes a girl gets married at
thirteen to fourteen.
Swadesh Roy,
Executive Editor. The Daily Janakantha, Dhaka, Bangladesh. He is a
highest state award winning journalist; and can be reached at
swadeshroy@gmail.com